I entered motherhood at the tender age of 15. Although I was young and nieve, I knew a mother’s job was to love and protect their child. As I got older, my body experienced more pregnancies and I gave birth to more little ones. My teenage years consisted of working, going to school, and taking care of children. And now, years later, I have a 20-year-old, 18-year-old, 15-year-old, and 5-year-old.
Many relatives often tell me “your kids grew up fast.” But I disagree, the time didn’t go by that quick. Throughout the years, all I can remember is being on a tight routine, teaching my kids manners, loving them, and doing the best I can. Then all of sudden, I looked up and I had 2 kids in college. The years have not gone by slow and they sure weren’t fast. But I’m grateful for every day God blessed me to be a mother.
When I was a teenager with a house full of kids, it seems like life was going in slow motion. I watched other young women have the time of their lives dating, partying, shopping, and going away to college. Meanwhile, I was worried about school registrations, daycare, doctor’s appointments, and getting school clothes ready for the next morning. I was different. My 19 didn’t look or feel like other 19 year-olds. But I got through those hard times. God blessed me with many helping hands along the way. You would have thought I would have given up at some point. But that didn’t happen. Instead, I put my kids first and always made sure their needs were meant. As long as I’m walking this earth, my kids know I will do whatever it takes to help them succeed.
I don’t play when it comes to my kids and will come to their defense at all times.
I will never support any wrongdoing. But, I will forgive my children and help them through any mistakes. I love all 4 of my babies unconditionally….right, wrong, and indifferent. They aren’t perfect and unfortunately, they will have to learn some things the hard way and I’ve made my peace with that. However, when life doesn’t go as planned, I’ll be there to help them make the calls, research a solution, and ultimately, pick-up the pieces. It is my job as a mother to always be in their corner and that’s what I intend to do.
I’m learning that being a good mother does not only involve taking care of your kids, you also have to take care of yourself. As mothers, we have to make sure our health is in good order. Our kids need us. No one will ever love your child like you. A mother’s love can never be duplicated. There’s something about mommy’s warm embrace, caring attitude, and nurturing spirit that nobody else has. Mothers have to be responsible and make they’re ok mentally, physically, and financially. You are no good to no one if you’re not ok.
Being a mama bear has never been easy but I wouldn’t change a thing.
I have to act as a shield in front of my little cubs. This world can be pretty brutal. Although hard work and dedication can produce many good results, the world can still be unfair. I have to be there to give my children wisdom, guidance, and life-changing advice. It is my responsibility to make sure they don’t make the same mistakes I did. Generational curses of poverty, envy, and abandonment will not continue down my bloodline. It’s time to do a new thing so my kids don’t make the same mistakes I did. I want them to be better than I ever was.
God is showing me my experience as a mother was never supposed to be like anyone else’s. The Lord created me with my own purpose and that included raising 4 children. I’ve spent years trying to prepare them for the world. Soon my husband and I will be empty nesters. But, even when the kids are grown and gone, I’ll still be there….one phone call away to help them in their time of need.